What most of us want more than anything else is to be loved. From the time we are born until we are old it’s the one thing that we crave. We can have a relationship with God and feel fulfilled but still feel lonely, because we’re created to be around people, to socialise. Our spirits were meant to intermingle with each other’s. We are all different and the inner us needs to experience everyone else. People often mistake this for romance, it isn’t. There are many facets and many layers to us but all of them need others in order to feel complete. Most people know the scripture most read at weddings, 1 Corinthians 13:4-10, but people forget the beginning and the end:
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing...
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.“
Love isn’t just the feeling we get when we are intimate with others, love is a choice. Love is a principle. Love is a daily decision to see others the way that our Father in Heaven does. To look at every person like a child of God. Like a brother and sister instead of an object, a random entity.
We are one body, we are not meant to be separate. A finger separate from the body cannot survive. Likewise the body without the heart can’t survive.
Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. – 1 Corinthians 12:15-26 (NIV)
We need each other. We cannot function apart. If there is anything I can encourage you to do today, it’s to choose love.