The second most important commandment is like this one. And it is, “Love others as much as you love yourself.”
Matthew 22:39 CEV
Why do we find it easy to love others but we often hate ourselves? Sometimes we give away encouragement free of charge, yet we find it so difficult to encourage ourselves.
This bible verse is talking about the significant opportunity we all have to cultivate our self- worth while we are single. Relationships aren’t bad in fact it’s an Amazing goal to have, yet to often we think we’ll wait for someone else to heal us while we’re broken. That’s God’s job and his the best at what he does, but why do we think to love ourselves is selfish.
To love yourself is learning to love the things you might not like. Becsuse it should’nt be someone else’s Job to help you love yourself, because when your on your own what you think about yourself is what matters most.
Also opinion is so suffocating because it’s trying to dictate who you are and who you should be. Yet while you struggle to figure out who you are, you might allow someone to teach you how much love you deserve.
Loving yourself first is more important than trying to find someone to help you, achieve what you haven’t done yourself.
I truly believe the reason we feel so broken, is because we have searched high and low trying to see who will love us while we’re hurting. But we’ve looked in the wrong places, because the only person who can love you unconditionally just the way you are is God.
You can’t love anyone else if you don’t like yourself. If you find it difficult to value the person in the mirror, you might only see the imperfections in other people.
Many of us have internal wounds that never heal and they often manifest later on in life. Maybe we never let people in, becsuse in order for people to truly like us they have to get close, but if they get close they might see our pain.
Believe me keeping people at arms length is no way live, especially if they never get closer enough, to ask you. Are you ok?
We need to lose the facade and understand that to love yourself is to love the person that you see and foster self- worth so that you have self- esteem. Some of us love others so easy, while we drown ourselves with the words we speak over our own life.
Take note of the things you say, and ask yourself if it’s building self- love or self- hatred. You either think your loved or you think your garbage, it’s that easy.
So Please learn to love yourself and please “Love others as much as you love yourself.”
Much love, Shaun