Forgivness isn’t a free pass to let hurt people hurt us, it’s the understanding that we have an opportunity to let go the pain that’s hurting us more. The longer we hold we on, the worse we feel.
But why is forgiveness so important?
First it makes sense to talk about how unforgiveness effects us and how it widens certain wounds we have.
Because the truth is unforgiveness causes bitterness in the heart towards people we hold onto in secret. It inflicts wounds that grow deeper and deeper the longer we hold on to the pain.
Unforgiveness is like feeding something you think is making your life better, yet it just affects everything else. It poisons your ability to truly love people, because theirs a wound that has never really healed.
So why is forgiveness so important?
At this point I probably don’t need to explain why it’s important. But I will 😁
We can’t be free unless theirs nothing on the inside that’ll cause an infection in our spirit. Were holding hope or hell in both our hands, living because we love life or hating it because we feel like we are in hell.
We often think of poverty in terms of income but what if it’s also related to self- esteem, self- worth and also our abilty to forgive. We can’t spend what we think we can’t live without, for example I can’t forgive that person that left some deep wounds, I won’t forgive my father because he was never their or even your mother.
So now you spend the rest of your life being a great parent to your own children, you do that because your trying to prove something to someone you doesn’t care; or because you genuinely want your children to know you care.
The point unforgiveness makes us think people owe us and they better pay up. Here’s the thing, Jesus paid oir ransom in full nothing is owing. The debt is clear, check this out; we are forgiven so we must forgive.
However God’s word says it better than I ever could.
‘If you forgive others for the wrongs they do to you, your Father in heaven will forgive you. But if you don’t forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.’
Matthew 6:14-15 CEV
Life’s to short to plant roots were they only grow in pain. And the truth is roots can be difficult to find, especially if they run deep in the human heart. We say things like ‘I’m fine, I’m ok’ as if our feelings are a chior and a checklist, but do you know what you don’t forgive is what you won’t forget.
Just let go, just forgive. Your hurting yourself and stunting the personal growth you probably want.
Always forgive as you are forgiven.
So this bloke turns to another criminal and tells him to basically shut up, Jesus did nothing wrong and that he and the other criminal deserved there sentence of crucifixion.
Jesus than turned to him and said this…
“I promise that today you will be with me in paradise.”
Luke 23:43 CEV